HOW SELFISH I AM

Who will decide if  I am selfish or not? Of course, my actions will reflect that, but I love myself and put my needs before anyone else's; therefore, I am not self-centred. I am simply loving myself.

Selfishness does not merely result from thinking and caring about oneself. Self-love is an attitude of admiration for oneself that develops through deeds that foster psychological, spiritual, and physical development. Self-love entails placing a high value on your own health and happiness. Self-love entails attending to your own needs and avoiding making sacrifices for the sake of others.

Self-respect is based on a deep acceptance of oneself and an unwavering conviction of one's intrinsic worth. This is a loving embrace of one's vulnerabilities and flaws, rather than only acknowledging one's triumphs and strengths. The ability to face mistakes head-on, to be wise enough to learn from them, and to be compassionate enough to forgive oneself are all aspects of self-respect. It's akin to cradling a fragile newborn, offering love and protection to the nascent spirit within.

The former encourages development and improvement, while the latter devalues one's self. Walking this tightrope requires grace and discernment, nurturing our self-respect even as we strive to improve.

Some people will sometimes tell us things like," Some people will sometimes tell us things like," How selfish you are; you didn't finish my work but you finished your work; you always finished your work before mine; you are not thinking about me; you are not a good person because a good person always loves others; you are appreciating yourself by yourself; you always think you are smart and progressing, but you are not; you are a selfish person,"  and so on. They are entirely mistaken. After the judgement of others, we begin to pass judgement on ourselves and begin to feel horrible about ourselves, but this is incorrect. If you are doing things in a way that is good for you, you are thinking favourably about yourself. You are simply working for your advancement and loving yourself there; therefore, you  are not being selfish.

We think about and care about others because we love them. We simply put ourselves first, but that does not mean We are self-centred because we also respect and love others. Therefore, others should comprehend and respect us when we put our own interests first, since that is what is vital.

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Conclusion 

The world respect and love me if I can first love myself. If I don't love and value myself first, then no one else will, and I won't be able to love others. Therefore, it is critical to value and prioritise one's because my actions will decide how selfish one is.

In a world often filled with noise and chaos, self-respect emerges as the gentle whisper that reminds us of our innate worthiness. It is the sanctuary where the soul finds solace and the fountain from which our well-being springs. Nurturing self-respect is an art, a lifelong practise of tending to the garden of our hearts with tenderness and care. As we water the seeds of self-awareness, empathy, and confidence, we watch with awe as the tapestry of our self-respect flourishes, illuminating the path to a life imbued with purpose and authenticity.